Is it the Journey or the Destination?
Many people are familiar with Ralph Waldo Emerson’s quote, “Life is a journey, not a destination.” It’s a quote that inspires people to enjoy the present moment and avoid the pitfalls of becoming overly focused on the future.
Control Fallacies
Control Fallacies are when you have a false belief about having too much control over things that are out of your control or when you believe that you have no control over anything in your life.
Mind Reading
Mind Reading is when you assume you know what your partner is thinking or feeling before they express it to you. It’s when you stop listening to your partner because you assume you know how their statement will end.
Negative Interpretations
A negative interpretation is when you or someone else (particularly your partner) consistently believes the motives of the other are more negative than they actually are.
Positive Self-Talk is a Daily Practice
A common question that I get asked is “how do I stop my negative thoughts? I can’t control it.” My answer: your negative thoughts are a reflex.
What is Your Story?
The narrative that you have about our life has a direct impact on how you feel and how you behave. For example, if you walk around telling yourself that your life is pointless, then you may feel unmotivated, discouraged, or depressed.
SMART Recovery: An Alternative to Alcoholics Anonymous
If you have attended a 12-step meeting, such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, then you may have heard someone say, “If you are not working the 12-steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, then you are a dry drunk.”
Addiction: Filling the Emptiness of the Dopamine Deficit
There are different types of addicts: (1) Those who are going through a difficult phase in their life who abuse substances as a coping mechanism to numb their pain
Impulsiveness
Impulsiveness is when you do something without any forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences. It can be unnecessarily risky and associated with undesirable, rather than desirable, outcomes.
Marijuana is Not Harmless
Right now, 33 states have legalized medical marijuana, while 10 have legalized recreational marijuana. Advocates for legalization believe that legalizing the drug may reduce use and make its use safer.
Cross Addiction
Cross addiction is when an individual replaces one addiction with another. This is typical occurrence in drug and alcohol treatment.
Ways to Respond in a Conversation
If your family dinners are anything like mine, then you are probably used to individuals speaking over one another. You must fight to have your voice heard and there is no space to reflect before responding or else your voice will be lost.
Uncover the Mole in your Addicted Mind
In espionage jargon, a mole (also called a “penetration agent”, “deep cover agent”, or “sleeper agent”) is a spy who is recruited to penetrate and sabotage an organization from the inside.
The Gratitude Hot Seat
A Thanksgiving Exercise to do with Family and Friends. We all take things for granted. It’s easy for us to forget about the things in our life that we are lucky to have.
How the Fight or Flight Response Occurs When Couples Fight
The fight or flight response is a physiological response that occurs when danger is present. It was essential to our survival in the Paleolithic period.
Addicted to the Monkey Mind by author J.F. Benoist
Recently I was fortunate enough to receive a complimentary copy of Addicted to the Monkey Mindby J.F. Benoist. It was sent to our office, so I decided to start reading it since someone was kind enough to take the time to send me a copy.
The Wise Mind
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy uses a concept called “The Wise Mind.” The Wise Mind is where your emotions and your intellect come together to create a balanced perspective.
Treating Thoughts as Guesses
It has been estimated that humans have anywhere from 30,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day and that up to 80% of these thoughts can be negative. It should be no wonder why so many members of the population struggle with anxiety and depression